Wajib Dengar: TED Talks Terbaik tentang Hidup Lajang

TED Talks tentang hidup lajang
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Apakah statusmu saat ini sedang jomblo, sudah lajang sejak iPhone 4 muncul—dan tidak masalah dengan status itu? Seperti kata Bella DePaulo, “para jomblo, kamu tahu apa yang harus kamu lakukan. Go out and live your single life fully, joyfully, and unapologetically.” Itu semua, plus dengarkan TED Talks tentang hidup lajang berikut ini.

My life is mine oleh Tracee Ellis Ross

Aktor Tracee Ellis Ross menceritakan pengalamannya tentang menjadi seorang lajang di usia 40an dan belum punya anak. Bahwa terkadang pencapaiannya (dapat Golden Globe dan karier sukses) dianggap sebagai sebuah kegagalan oleh beberapa orang di sekelilingnya karena statusnya yang masih jomblo.

#bestquote: “But most of all because The Brave Me reminds me that I am complete just as me. Not in relation to anyone or anything else, just wholly, fully me.”

What no one ever told you about people who are single oleh Bella DePaulo

Bella DePaulo, seorang psikilogis sosial dan penulis buku (di antaranya Singled Out: How Singles are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After), usia 60an dan menggambarkan dirinya sebagai “single at heart“. Dan menikmati pilihan dan gaya hidup tersebut.

#bestquote: “Today a lot of people have a romantic relationship without ever getting married. So maybe what matters is not whether you’re married or not, but how much of that good stuff are you getting, the romantic relationship has to offer. How much caring are you getting, how much commitment.”

On living the single life oleh Jasmina Najjar

Penulis buku Beirut Knights, Jasmina Najjar, menekankan bahwa kita tidak perlu memiliki pasangan untuk menjadi bahagia.

#bestquote: Happiness and companionship and fulfilment can be found in many places. Friends, families, works, charities, travels, hobbies, the list goes on. Being single is not the worst thing that can happen. It is time we don’t let society put us down. It is time we embrace that the happiness that we have regardless that our marital status.”

How to stop swiping and find your person on dating apps oleh Christina Wallace

Sebut saja kamu sudah menjomblo selama beberapa hari/bulan/tahun (*silakan pilih). Dan ingin mencoba dating apps. Christina Wallace, pengusaha dan pemilik podcast The Limit Does Not Exist, membagikan pengalamannya saat mencari cinta melalui dating apps.

#bestquote: “But the point of this story is that online dating doesn’t have to suck. Don’t treat it like a game, and don’t treat it like a resume review. Instead, use it to source and qualify leads and then get offline as quickly as possible with the zero date. Because the point of this isn’t swiping. It’s finding your person.”

How To Be Alone oleh Lane Moore

Pernah traveling sendiri—dan orang-orang di sekitarmu menganggap hal itu sesuatu yang super aneh? Atau merasa tidak ada orang yang mencintaimu? Komika dan penulis buku How To Be Alone: If You Want To And Even If You Don’t, mengerti banget apa yang sedang kamu rasakan.

#bestquote: “We are told that in order to be enough, our family has to think we are enough, our friends have to think we are enough, our partner has to say that we are enough. But what if we’re worth loving because we think our enough?”

Living single oleh Eric Klinenberg

Eric Klinenberg, seorang sosiolog dan penulis buku Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone, membagikan hasil penelitiannya tentang orang-orang yang hidup sendiri.

#bestquote: “As lonely as can be to live on your own, there’s nothing lonelier than being married to the wrong person. There’s nothing lonelier than living with the wrong person and lying in bed at night and feeling strange.”

Itu rekomendasi TED Talks tentang hidup lajang. Berikutnya, ini film zombie yang bisa kamu tonton sambil rebahan di rumah.

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